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Ten How To Become A Great Dad


1. Respect Your Mother Children.
One of the best things a father can do for his children is to respect their mother. If you are married, keep your marriage strong and full of vitality.

2. Take Time Together With Your Children.
How a father spends time saying what was important to him. If you always seem too busy for your children, they will feel neglected no matter what you say.

3. Earn the Right to Be Heard.
Too often the only time a father speaks to his children is when they make a mistake. Begin talking with your kids when they were little, so that difficult subjects will be easier to handle as they get older. Take time and listen to ideas as well as their problems.

4. Discipline with Love.
All children need guidance and discipline, not as punishment, but to set boundaries that make sense. Remind your children of the consequences of their actions and provide meaningful rewards for desirable behavior.

5. Role Model.
Fathers are role models for their children, whether they realize it or not. A girl who spends time with a loving father grows up knowing she deserves to be treated with respect by boys, and what to look for in a husband. The father can teach his sons what is important in life by demonstrating honesty, humility and responsibility.

6. Be a Teacher.
Too many fathers think teaching is something others do. But a father who teaches his children about right and wrong, and encourages them to do their best, will see his children make good choices.

7. Eat Together as a Family.
Sharing a meal together (breakfast, lunch, or dinner) can be an important part of healthy family life. In addition to providing some structure in a busy day, it gives kids the chance to talk about what they are doing and what they want to do.

8. Recite Stories For Your Children.
Start reading stories to the children since they were little. When they are older, encourage them to read on their own. Instilling a love for reading is one of the best ways to ensure your children experience personal growth as well as a lifetime career.

9. Hold Up Love You.
Children need the security that comes from knowing they are wanted, accepted and loved by their family. Parents, especially fathers, need to be willing to hug their children. Showing affection everyday is the best way to tell them that you love them.

10. Realize That A Father's Job Is Never Done.

Even after children are grown and ready to leave home, they will still find wisdom and advice from his father. Whether a matter of continuing education, new job, or a wedding, fathers continue to play an important role in the lives of their children as they grow and, perhaps, marry and build their own families.

Family Problems Solutions For Husband


In the family, the position of the leader is on the husband. The husband is a religious educator in the family, because the most important responsibilities husband saved his wife and family from the Fire (At Tahrim: 6). Position powerful husband, but keep in mind that religious education is the process of converting careful temperament changed. Husband had the power to force, but if you just rely on the imposition of any changes to the wife just outside alone, unable to enter the heart
Some issues in view of husband and wife:
  • Lazy wife prayer
  • Disobedient wife's husband
  • Difficult wife advised
  • Wives hang out with other men, either directly or through the virtual world (Facebook, BBM, etc.) 

Things that can be done if the husband and wife seen as problematic:
  • The husband used to repent for the mistakes that have been done, both to God and to his wife.
  • The husband realizes that the first one who took the decision to get married, and what is happening now is the consequence.
  • The husband made sure all his responsibilities to his wife completed properly, the inner or outer world and the hereafter.
  • If the husband never remiss in his duty to his wife, apologize to his wife.
  • Husbands often charity, especially to people who need istiqomah / continuous
  • Give the science of religion to the wife, if the husband can not give the husband needs to find a teacher / recitation for the wife.
  • Husband gives an example of a role model to his wife. God willing, if the husband is the best of both husband especially depraved, then what the husband would easily go to the wife's heart, not just through it. If the advice has been carried out with the best, but my wife still will not change, then the next action as in Surat an-Nisa 'verse 34: “The women whom you fear disobedience [291], admonish them and send them in their beds, and beat them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them-find [292]. Allah is Most High, Most Great”.
  • If the husband had to give advice but is not adhered to by the wife, the husband can give the next stage of separating the bed until the wife would obey.
  • If after marital separation was not obedient, the husband can beat his wife with a punch that did not hurt wife
  • If after receiving the blow was not obedient, then the husband can provide for divorce threat, and if they are not adhered to the wife also can be divorced.
  • some Notes
  • Actions against nusyuz wife (ungodly):
  • Surat At Tahrim : 6 people those who believe, guard yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is men and stones; guardian angels of the rough, hard, and do not disobey Allah in what he commanded them and always do what they're told. "